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James Henderson
Jun 29, 2018
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How about that, we have made it to the last few days in June. How has your June gone? What did you accomplish this month that was not present in May? We have so many decisions to make hour by hour, minute by minute so how is today going to play out? What are you telling yourself when you look in the mirror? Here are interesting facts about positive self talk that I am sure you will enjoy.

See Yourself What do you tell yourself when you look in the mirror? That message is what will effect the way your day goes. Are you grateful that you woke up? Someone in this huge planet didn't see today. When I look in the mirror, I say I AM A CHAMPION. Sometime I say it internally, other times I shout it out depending on how early it is. Do you have your own affirmation statement that gets you going in the morning? If not, I highly recommend that you add it to your morning routine. Take some time to really dive into the rest of what is here for you today. I have been researching and found somethings that may help you. I know they are helping me and want to share that with you. I will achieve my goals? Now, what about you?

Patterns The first step towards change is to become more aware of the problem. You probably do not realize how often you say negative things in your mind so here are steps to figure that out. 1. Journal- can be a great tool for analyzing your inner process. You can write down your thoughts as soon as they come or you can summarize them at the end of the day. 2. Thought - Stopping- as soon as you have that negative thought, say "STOP." Saying it out loud is more powerful, and it causes you to see how often, what time, and where your negative thoughts are happening. 3. Rubber Band Snap- wear a rubber band and when that negative thought comes, pull and release your band. Yes, you will have temporary discomfort that will make you more aware of what's happening, and help you be more aware of your thoughts to change them.

Words When was the last time you were in the hospital for yourself or visited someone there? Think about how the nurse talks about discomfort instead of pain. In general, this is done because pain is a much more powerful word, and talking about your pain level can make your experience of it more intense then your discomfort level. Try this in your life. In your self talk, turn more powerful negative words into neutral words. For example, I hate her bad habit of not keeping her word or paying attention to details which makes me angry. Instead, you can use I don't like her bad habit of not keeping her word or paying attention to details which is annoying. This sounds much milder, doesn't it?

Willing When you find yourself mentally complaining about something, rethink your assumptions. Are you assuming the worst when it really isn't, necessarily? For example, having a no show to my personal training session is negative, but what I do with that hour of time is what I make of it.

Belief

Controlling self-limiting statements like “I can’t handle this,” "These kids are driving me crazy!", "This is too hard!", "I need to lose weight but I will not change my eating habits and exercise consistently!" or “This is impossible!” are particularly damaging because they increase your stress in a given situation and they stop the problem solving solutions. The next time you find yourself thinking something that limits the possibilities of a given situation, turn it into a question. Doesn't “How can I handle this?” or “How is this possible?” sound more optimistic and open up your imagination to new possibilities? Reference: Elizabeth Scott, Reduce Stress and Improve Your Life With Positive Self Talk, Very Well Mind