Daddy's Role

Hello Dad,

Today's writing is to remind you of how important your role is when it comes to raising your child/children. Your son needs a specific part of you. Your daughter needs a specific part of you. Your role in their lives will shape them all the way until adulthood. In addition, there is a distinct difference between what you do as a father compared to what mom does. Today's blog post will be focused on men and your responsibility.

You're in a position to guide your sons and daughters to Greatness. You have to believe that you can actually complete the task. What father wants their child to come in last place? Think back Dad, when you were growing up, was your father in your life? If so, how did that make you feel and what influence did he have on you? If not, how did his absence affect you in your development? How did that make you feel? You have thoughts, emotions, feelings, and are allowed to express them. The way you express them will be judged regardless so make sure that you get it out in the best way possible. What I've come to learn in life is that we are going to be judged regardless so stop walking on eggshells, stop tiptoeing around what other people think, and live your life. Your children are watching and they are learning from you.

(Short list and know there are many more)

Provider

Protector

Influencer

Disciplinarian

These are just a few roles dad plays in his child's life and the way you handle each one is important. As a provider, you must give your children the things that they need in terms of food, clothing, and shelter. You can also provide their wants and depending on how you raise your children, you can give them everything they want. I have noticed though, children that are given everything they want usually turn out to be spoiled, entitled, adults that must get their way in everything. They're the adults that have meltdowns if there is not a parking space available at the front of the store when they pull up. They are the ones that can't stand in line and complain the store clerk is slow. They are the ones that must get a participation trophy or recognized for just being there.

As a protector, you must make sure that you are watching over them to keep them from harm's way. You are similar to a shepherd that is watching over the flock of sheep. God created you physically to be stronger than a woman and that gives you an advantage as a protector if you use it accordingly. From all the recent news reports, dad you must protect your children from other adults that have unnatural feelings towards your children. You must protect them from kidnappers, sex traffickers, and other abusive people.

Your words and actions are part of your influence on your children. Whether you have one child or multiple your actions will dictate what your children do. Whether you like it or not, your children are watching you. If you are always angry, don't be surprised if your children are angry. If you are always sad, don't be surprised if your children are sad. If you are always happy, don't be surprised if your children are happy. I think you see the pattern here. Children are natural sponges and are influenced in multiple ways. As father, don't you want to be their biggest influence?

When it comes to disciplining your children, this may be one of the hardest things to do because you love them and want the best for them. It all depends on your value system and your moral compass which measures you will take when it comes to discipline. From what I've seen we have more undisciplined adults in the world then we did 20 years ago. I will not directly blame fathers for this, but I will say due to the lack of fathers in the home, we have seen less disciplined adults. There have been studies that have shown statistically, children from a single parent mother led home tend to be incarcerated more, have difficulty in school, and likely to get into criminal activity. So dad's, we need you to continue to stand your ground and be there for your child/children to help them in this world.

I understand the work-life balance and the difficulties that come with that. As long as you have a system in place and follow your system you can continue to raise your children with all the hats that you must wear. Children are the future and need guidance. Stay on you post dad!

Deuteronomy 6: 4-7

4 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord:

5 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.

6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:

7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

Ephesians 6:4

4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Colossians 3:21

21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

Proverbs 20:7

7 The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.

Sincerely,

-Coach James